Kinds of Wives

Bhariyāsutta

Kinds of Wives

Bhariyāsutta

EN
Then the Buddha robed up in the morning and, taking his bowl and robe, went to the home of the householder Anāthapiṇḍika, where he sat down on the seat spread out. Now at that time people in Anāthapiṇḍika’s home were making a colossal racket. Then the householder Anāthapiṇḍika went up to the Buddha, bowed, and sat down to one side. The Buddha said to him,
PL
Atha kho bhagavā pubbaṇhasamayaṁ nivāsetvā pattacīvaramādāya yena anāthapiṇḍikassa gahapatissa nivesanaṁ tenupasaṅkami; upasaṅkamitvā paññatte āsane nisīdi. Tena kho pana samayena anāthapiṇḍikassa gahapatissa nivesane manussā uccāsaddā mahāsaddā honti. Atha kho anāthapiṇḍiko gahapati yena bhagavā tenupasaṅkami; upasaṅkamitvā bhagavantaṁ abhivādetvā ekamantaṁ nisīdi. Ekamantaṁ nisinnaṁ kho anāthapiṇḍikaṁ gahapatiṁ bhagavā etadavoca:
EN
“Householder, what’s with the people making that colossal racket in your home? You’d think it was fishermen hauling in a catch!” “Sir, that’s my daughter-in-law Sujātā. She’s been brought here from a wealthy family. She doesn’t obey her mother-in-law or father-in-law or her husband. And she does not honor, respect, esteem, and venerate the Buddha.” Then the Buddha addressed Sujātā, saying,
PL
“Kiṁ nu te, gahapati, nivesane manussā uccāsaddā mahāsaddā kevaṭṭā maññe macchavilope”ti? “Ayaṁ, bhante, sujātā gharasuṇhā aḍḍhakulā ānītā. Sā neva sassuṁ ādiyati, na sasuraṁ ādiyati, na sāmikaṁ ādiyati, bhagavantampi na sakkaroti na garuṁ karoti na māneti na pūjetī”ti. Atha kho bhagavā sujātaṁ gharasuṇhaṁ āmantesi:
EN
“Come, Sujātā.” “Yes, sir,” she replied. She went up to the Buddha, bowed, and sat down to one side. The Buddha said to her: “Sujātā, a man can have seven kinds of wife. What seven?
PL
“ehi, sujāte”ti. “Evaṁ, bhante”ti kho sujātā gharasuṇhā bhagavato paṭissutvā yena bhagavā tenupasaṅkami; upasaṅkamitvā bhagavantaṁ abhivādetvā ekamantaṁ nisīdi. Ekamantaṁ nisinnaṁ kho sujātaṁ gharasuṇhaṁ bhagavā etadavoca: “Satta kho imā, sujāte, purisassa bhariyāyo. Katamā satta?
EN
A wife like a killer, a wife like a thief, a wife like a lord, a wife like a mother, a wife like a sister, a wife like a comrade, and a wife like a bondservant. These are the kinds of wife that a man can have. Which one of these are you?” “Sir, I don’t understand the detailed meaning of what the Buddha has said in brief.
PL
Vadhakasamā, corīsamā, ayyasamā, mātāsamā, bhaginīsamā, sakhīsamā, dāsīsamā. Imā kho, sujāte, satta purisassa bhariyāyo. Tāsaṁ tvaṁ katamā”ti? “Na kho ahaṁ, bhante, imassa bhagavatā saṅkhittena bhāsitassa vitthārena atthaṁ ājānāmi.
EN
Please teach me this matter so I can understand the detailed meaning.” “Well then, Sujātā, listen and apply your mind well, I will speak.” “Yes, sir,” she replied. The Buddha said this:
PL
Sādhu me, bhante, bhagavā tathā dhammaṁ desetu yathāhaṁ imassa bhagavatā saṅkhittena bhāsitassa vitthārena atthaṁ jāneyyan”ti. “Tena hi, sujāte, suṇāhi, sādhukaṁ manasi karohi; bhāsissāmī”ti. “Evaṁ, bhante”ti kho sujātā gharasuṇhā bhagavato paccassosi. Bhagavā etadavoca:
EN
“With a mind full of hate and no kindness, lusting for others, looking down on her husband, she longs to murder him who paid the price for her. A man’s wife of this sort
PL
“Paduṭṭhacittā ahitānukampinī, Aññesu rattā atimaññate patiṁ; Dhanena kītassa vadhāya ussukā, Yā evarūpā purisassa bhariyā;
EN
is called a wife and a killer. A woman’s husband earns his wealth by focusing on a profession, trade, or farming. And even if it’s only a little, she wants to take it.
PL
‘Vadhā ca bhariyā’ti ca sā pavuccati. Yaṁ itthiyā vindati sāmiko dhanaṁ, Sippaṁ vaṇijjañca kasiṁ adhiṭṭhahaṁ; Appampi tassa apahātumicchati,
EN
A man’s wife of this sort is called a wife and a thief. She’s an idle glutton who doesn’t want to work. Her words are harsh, fierce, and rude.
PL
Yā evarūpā purisassa bhariyā; ‘Corī ca bhariyā’ti ca sā pavuccati. Akammakāmā alasā mahagghasā, Pharusā ca caṇḍī duruttavādinī;
EN
He works hard, but she lives as his master. A man’s wife of this sort is called a wife and a lord. She’s always caring and kind,
PL
Uṭṭhāyakānaṁ abhibhuyya vattati, Yā evarūpā purisassa bhariyā; ‘Ayyā ca bhariyā’ti ca sā pavuccati. Yā sabbadā hoti hitānukampinī,
EN
looking after her husband like a mother her child. She keeps the wealth that he has earned secure. A man’s wife of this sort is called a wife and a mother.
PL
Mātāva puttaṁ anurakkhate patiṁ; Tato dhanaṁ sambhatamassa rakkhati, Yā evarūpā purisassa bhariyā; ‘Mātā ca bhariyā’ti ca sā pavuccati.
EN
She respects her husband as a younger sister respects her elder. Conscientious, she does what her husband says. A man’s wife of this sort
PL
Yathāpi jeṭṭhā bhaginī kaniṭṭhakā, Sagāravā hoti sakamhi sāmike; Hirīmanā bhattuvasānuvattinī, Yā evarūpā purisassa bhariyā;
EN
is called a wife and a sister. She’s delighted to see him, like one reunited with a long-lost comrade. She’s of good pedigree, virtuous, and devoted.
PL
‘Bhaginī ca bhariyā’ti ca sā pavuccati. Yācīdha disvāna patiṁ pamodati, Sakhī sakhāraṁva cirassamāgataṁ; Koleyyakā sīlavatī patibbatā,
EN
A man’s wife of this sort is called a wife and a comrade. She has no anger <j>when threatened with violence by the rod. Without hate or anger,
PL
Yā evarūpā purisassa bhariyā; ‘Sakhī ca bhariyā’ti ca sā pavuccati. Akkuddhasantā vadhadaṇḍatajjitā, Aduṭṭhacittā patino titikkhati;
EN
she endures her husband and does what he says. A man’s wife of this sort is called a wife and a bondservant. The kinds of wives here called
PL
Akkodhanā bhattuvasānuvattinī, Yā evarūpā purisassa bhariyā; ‘Dāsī ca bhariyā’ti ca sā pavuccati. Yācīdha bhariyā vadhakāti vuccati,
EN
killer, thief, and lord; immoral, harsh, and lacking regard for others, when their body breaks up they set course for hell. But the kinds of wives here called
PL
‘Corī ca ayyā’ti ca yā pavuccati; Dussīlarūpā pharusā anādarā, Kāyassa bhedā nirayaṁ vajanti tā. Yācīdha mātā bhaginī sakhīti ca,
EN
mother, sister, comrade, and bondservant; steadfast in their own morality, <j>restrained for a long time, when their body breaks up <j>they set course for a good place. Sujātā, these are the seven kinds of wife that a man can have.
PL
‘Dāsī ca bhariyā’ti ca sā pavuccati; Sīle ṭhitattā cirarattasaṁvutā, Kāyassa bhedā sugatiṁ vajanti tāti. Imā kho, sujāte, satta purisassa bhariyāyo.
EN
Which one of these are you?” “Sir, from this day forth may the Buddha remember me as a wife like a bondservant.”
PL
Tāsaṁ tvaṁ katamā”ti? “Ajjatagge maṁ, bhante, bhagavā dāsīsamaṁ sāmikassa bhariyaṁ dhāretū”ti. Dasamaṁ.

Pāli root text and English translation by Bhikkhu Sujato from SuttaCentral (https://suttacentral.net), CC0.

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